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User: scien
Date: 2009-11-08 10:28
Subject: Kicking things off
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Sorry I didn't start promoting and things earlier, I kind of forgot that I was going to go on holiday with no internet. Oops!

So hello! Me in brief: All about meeeCollapse )

Just a reminder, intro posts are currently very welcome just to get some chatter going here. Please do go ahead and introduce yourself :)

Actual post:

Something I've been thinking about lately is 'the thrill of the chase'. I've heard a lot of talk over the years of lurking in polyamory and other communities about NRE, but this seems to me to be a slightly different idea as it ends when the relationship is established.

I'm currently (very casually) involved with someone who adores the time when you're just getting to know someone, slowly opening up, and the sexual tension is so thick you can taste it, and you're not quite sure what's going to happen next. For me, that was a really fun time, but I'm actually happier now that we're more comfortable and all we need to do to get each other into bed is ask. For him, it's less exciting. I'm hoping he'll find someone else to get that excitement with and that will spill over into our interactions too. If not then oh well, I guess he'll have to deal one way or another, since I'm certainly not going to play hard to get :P We're still seeing each other and it's still fun, but he misses that intensity a lot.

I won't be heartbroken if this doesn't work out to be a long term thing, but it would be nice if we could make it work. And this isn't really something I've run across before. So I'm curious about:

* How do you feel about 'the thrill of the chase'? If you/your partners are very into it, what has that been like?
* Does my theory about excitement spilling over match your experiences, or do you find that having that excitement somewhere else makes the established relationship(s) where you already know what's going on look pale in comparison?
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ever so slightly obsessed posting in Not monogamous
User: scien
Date: 2009-10-19 19:55
Subject: A new community is launched!
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Hello, first group of people who probably forgot they ever joined this community!

I'm going to start promoting it to the LJ public within the next few days. What do you think of the userinfo I've set up? Think it'll work? Any ideas big or small?
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